Sunday, April 16, 2017

Andrew and Molly's Cuban Adventure

Havana, Cuba


There are two realities in Cuba: The tourist reality and the local reality. 

Day 1

The flight from Miami to Cuba was amazing. We were bumped up to first class and were served mimosas before take off, as well as snacks and drinks in flight. It was early so after the mimosas we opted for coffee and diet Coke. The flight was all of 45 minutes long. Once we arrived we went to the bathroom and then went ahead and exchanged money. Found our cab driver arranged by the woman we re staying with. He did not speak English. I did most of the talking for Andrew and me. The man wanted to know why we were so late. We went out another exit and couldn't find him so we had gone to the bathroom and then exchanged funds. We had brought Canadian dollars to exchange, but on my receipt it says we brought Indian currency? Still confused...

In the car I sat on a cloth and wasn't able to buckle up. Weird. The driver wanted to know where we were from and then once we told him he wanted to know whether it was far from Miami. He spoke slowly and used gestures. He often needed to repeat himself but we understood each other. As we drove down the street I was fascinated by the plantations, old cars and run down buildings.


When we arrived the area looked run down and so did the outside of where we were staying. When we arrived our lovely host, her husband and their little dog resembling Toto were there to greet us along with two young German tourists who had stayed in that room for one night. We spoke in German and they said they were off to the beach. Once they left we concentrated on our host. She showed us to our flat which was in the basement and we were so thrilled that it's very nice with a modern shower, a nice bed, couches and a TV There is also a small fridge with bottled water in it for 1 CUC each. We were told not to drink the water here at so we've used it for tooth brushing and washing out our mouths as well as the usual drinking. 


Once we set our things down we ventured into town, which resulted in walking about 7 miles and getting lost in the process. With no wifi and Andrew being the only one with directional sense it took a while for us to find our way around. Eventually I was dying of thirst and we stopped for a bottled water. Cuban bottled water tastes like pool water. Yuck. After walking further we found a hotel restaurant where we ate ham and cheese panini sandwiches which were pretty good. We sipped our drinks, ate our sandwiches and watched a soccer game on the television. It was so pixelated and difficult to see, something we haven't dealt with in the US since the 1990s.

Using the bathroom proved to be interesting. On public toilets in Cuba there are no toilet seats, and you're lucky to have toilet paper (lots of times it's rationed out to you) and then you're lucky to get soap to wash your hands with. Yum. Thankfully I had read about this before my travels and brought extra tissues and hand sanitizer with me. Both have proved to be very useful.


After lunch and walking miles without figuring out where old Havana was, we took a taxi in an old 1950s American car and finally got there. We walked around and went to a couple cafes, most notably the Museo de Chocolate, where the chocolate milk and the chocolates that came with it were cheap and delicious. We bought some to bring home with us.

Dinner was at a brewery and the food and service were both less than stellar. The chicken didn't taste good. We picked at it and drank our drinks-I had a mojito, Andrew had beer. It seemed weird to be in the most touristy area in all of the city and have the food be so cheap. Chicken was 6 CUC, beer was 2 CUC and the mojito, which was delicious, was 2 CUC. Not exactly expensive. However our cab ride was 15 CUC to get home, which, according to our host, should've been 5-8 CUC. We of course got charged more since we are tourists, something I don't begrudge the locals for. I know that money is tight for most Cubans and they need the extra income. 

Back at home, we were exhausted from the day. Outside, we heard loud music and talking in Spanish. Why in the world was there a party on a Wednesday night? Weird. I put my earplugs in and fell fast asleep.

Day 2

Our host does breakfast for 5 CUC per person so we'd requested breakfast for our entire stay. The breakfast was very delicious. It was coffee (VERY strong), condensed milk, a plate of fruit each with guavas, pineapple, etc., scrambled eggs with ham and cheese, bread, butter, marmalade, and pineapple juice. Very delicious and very affordable...

After breakfast our host took us to a street where we could hail a taxi and talked to the driver so the drive was 5 CUC, not 15 like yesterday. 

We got dropped at the Plaza de Armas and went into the Castillo (castle) there. We were looking at different coins and stones with relative disinterest (we paid the admission to see the view from the top of the castle) when a woman approached me and started a conversation in Spanish. She asked if we were from Canada or the the U.K., to which I replied that we were from the US. She asked where and mentioned she had relatives in, you guessed it, Miami. She then took us to a view that was out of the way from the cameras and asked if we wanted a picture which wasn't allowed. I said no, knowing she'd want some money. Then she continued to follow us around, went behind another camera and asked us for money. Had Andrew give her 1 CUC and we were on our way. We went up to the top of the castle, looked at the view and then went back down. In front of the old governors mansion a guy tried to sell us coins. He took them back when he realized we weren't going to pay him more than like 40 cents. While we were expecting this in such a touristy part of the city, it never fails to make us uncomfortable. 

We moved on from there to a look out point that you go to by taking an elevator to the 8th floor of the building. That was really cool, and the tour guide there was nice. She took us in a room that showed us the city "live" thanks to a bunch of mirrors on the roof that were projected into the room. Very cool stuff!


From there we took a hop on hop off tour that basically showed us how run down the city is. The aquarium, which is still in operation, looks as if it was last updated/used in the 70s. It was pretty pathetic. Once we got off the bus we were dying for food and water. It was hard to find a decent restaurant and when we did we left after not being acknowledged after 25 minutes!! We finally found a restaurant later that had been recommended on our Cuba app. It was expensive but the food was better than what we'd been having. We were starving by the time we arrived 5pm for our lunch/dinner and promptly devoured 5 rolls and a bunch of bread sticks between us . Our main dishes, shrimp for him and chicken tomatoes soup for me, plus a huge bowl of rice to share, are delicious and we eat everything. Then we top it off with dessert. The restaurant was good. The bathroom there, however, was lacking. Toilet had a broken knob and then there  was no water. Had to dip my hands in a tin of water and then I proceeded to douse myself in hand sanitizer.

Andrew and I went for a walk through a park and a Cuban man asked to have Andrews hat. We were so confused/amused by that. Andrew was not willing to give up his favorite hat!


We sit in a park for a while and then go to a cafe for mojitos. Dogs walk around with name tags and we wonder why. They are everywhere.

We walk towards the taxi stand and show the card giving to us by our host that has our address on it. The gentleman asks for 20 CUC. We refuse and offer ten. He refused and another man calls out. He will take 10 CUC. He's very nice and says he likes the USA and shows us a little flag. He says he hates Trump and we agree. He blasts Puerto Rican music and we sit in silence. Something about him gives me a good feeling. The best part of this trip is our interaction with good honest people.

I look forward to our home away from home. Our air B and B that is beautiful by any standards and I feel most comfortable there. Suffering from anxiety and also having a low tank of energy in general to begin with, I find myself exhausted quite early each day when I travel. I prefer to sit and relax in the evenings in order to prepare for the next day. Andrew and I share some snacks that we thankfully brought to Cuba with us, he reads and I watch a show I downloaded off of Netflix.

Day 3

Friday begins with another delicious breakfast prepared by our host. We go to catch a cab and this time we know where to go so that it only costs 5 CUC. Sitting in the car I cough from all of the exhaust. I look forward to the comparably clean air in Charlotte.

Andrew and I want to walk through a tunnel. Think better of it once we see the huge amount of smog coming out of it. No need to breath all of that in. We head to the museum of the revolution, which we both think sounds really interesting. Andrew looks around while I sit, dizzy and overwhelmed, tired of people asking us for money or trying to sell us something we don't want. When this happens to me I sit and wait for the feelings to pass. It's okay to let them take over for a short while as long as i don't let them ruin my day. 

Later we go to one of the luxury hotels for lunch, which is expensive but allows us to go have a much needed filling meal. We enjoy the excellent service and feel a bit like we're back in America. When we're finished we head to the cigar shop in the hotel to buy souvenirs for our family and friends. 

We go into a supermarket and are amazed at the lack of products available. 


Later we just walked through parts of the city we hadn't seen before and then stopped for drinks and to read. At the second place, a bar we were visiting for the second time, we got the same cranky waiter who has quite the disdain for his job. When I asked for coffee, which is on the menu, he said "No, we have mojito." This man didn't seem to understand I didn't want alcohol, so I went ahead and ordered a beer, which Andrew drank after he finished his first one.

Our final destination before heading back to our casa particular (Air B and B) for a rest was a cafe where we got a brownie sundae. There was a man singing off key in front of the outdoor cafe with maracas. He was an old man of about 75 dressed nicely. When he finished his songs I clapped. I felt bad that others were ignoring him and it tore on my heartstrings. He came up to me and asked in Spanish if I could help him. I gave him 1 CUC, wishing I could give him more but we'd nearly spent all of the money we brought into town that day. He smiled and offered me a smile and a thank you in English. When he left I broke down and cried. It's so hard to know that I can't help everyone and that there are so many people that aren't as lucky as I am. But after sitting and thinking on this taxi ride back "home" for the evening, I decide to challenge myself to see those that are often invisible by continuing to give smiles, or a round of applause. 

After relaxing for a bit back at where we are staying we walk to the John Lennon statue which is in a local park. Andrew and I sit for a while and watch all of the local kids, young and old playing together. It's great to end our trip on a happy note. Despite the economic challenges Cubans face, kids are kids and they enjoy playing soccer, stick ball, and other games together. We go back to our casa particular and go to sleep.

Day 4

On our last morning we have a quick breakfast and then have the same taxi driver who picked us up take us home. He's very kind. We don't talk much... he doesn't speak any English. When he lets us out, he gives me a kiss on the cheek and Andrew a handshake. We head in, exchange our remaining CUCs back to dollars, go through check in and security, and eventually board our flight back to Miami.









Thursday, July 23, 2015

Spain and Portugal

After the initial culture shock and adjustment period, I was rearing to go. Since I only have classes on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, this past week on Tuesday I decided to go see the city. Being  a person who is not great with directions to begin with, I decided to try a hop on hop off tour around the city so that I could get my bearings. The following day I finally received a message from my language school about activities that they offer in the evenings. That night I met up with a group of young 20 somethings who were learning Spanish. Even the other Americans wanted to speak Spanish with me, which I appreciated. Normally when I see someone from my native country, I would just speak English with them. In this way I was forced to speak Spanish.

The next day I tried some delicious tapas at various restaurants down town, and then on Friday I have my Spanish class. Later that evening I flew to Lisbon, Portugal for the weekend.

I had reserved a reasonably priced 4 star hotel and was looking forward to seeing the sites and relaxing in the evenings. The first night I ate dinner in the mall food court next to my hotel. I obviously do not speak portuguese, and the kind woman behind the counter did her very best to try and explain to me what types of dishes they offered. My dish of choice was nothing to write home about, but it did the trick.

When I got back to my hotel room I played with the buttons on my roommate like a fascinated 5 year old. The hotel is very high tech and I could control everything from my blinds to my lights and everything in between with the push of the button. Once I got over that, I settled in for the night.

On Saturday, despite the fact that I had wanted to just relax in the hotel room, I knew that I should go out and see the city. I was able to find a hop on hop off tour and went ahead and did that. I got off thet tour on the beach and treated myself to ice cream and a nice meal. Later, after going back to the hotel to relax, I decided to go ahead and take a taxi to the local castle on the hill. The view alone was worth the price of admission and I was glad I had made the effort. After exiting the castle, I hailed a cab and was pleasantly surprised to begin a nice conversation with the driver. I learned that he was also a teacher, and that teachers in Portugal are even more underpaid than those in the states. He, like me, has a second job so that he can support himself. Despite the fact that he is so severely underpaid, he was so kind and positive that speaking with him made my day.

In the evening I went to an Italian restaurant near my hotel, after which I was happy to return to my fabulous hotel room. The next morning I had breakfast and was off, ready to head back to Madrid.

On Monday I had Spanish class again, after which Maria and I went to a museum and looked at the beautiful paintings. There was one on loan from the Detroit Institute of Arts, and I was like a proud parent admiring my childs work.

On Tuesday I took a day trip to the nearby city of Toledo, a beautiful town on a hill that inspired famous painters such as El Greco. I especially enjoyed the train ride I took around the city, during which the audio guide told interesting stories behind various landmarks. It was a long, hot day, after which I was happy to return home.

By Wednesday, afer my Spanish class had ended, I needed a little taste of home. So I decided to go to Hard Rock Cafe Madrid, just a short walk from my language school. Despite being fully aware that what I was about to order was calorific, I went ahead and ordered the twisted mac and cheese and ate every last drop.

Today I went ahead and relaxed at a university pool and then met with a friend of a friend. It was good for my Spanish, as she doesnt speak English.

All in all, things are going well and Im loving my time here.

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

Saludos desde Espana

Dear All,
Greetings from Madrid, Spain.

This past Sunday, after having spent 2 weeks traveling around Germany and then another 2 weeks chaperoning my students on their exchange in Frankfurt, I flew from Frankfurt, Germany, to Madrid, Spain. My travels got off to a good start. I was on a plane that would eventually be destined for Chile, so there were tvs on board. The flight was quiet and painless. I arrived around half past ten and the shuttle company sent a driver, who was already waiting for me. It was about 95 degrees and I was overwhelmed by how hot it could be even when the sun isnt out.

After about a 20 minute drive into the city, I was dropped off in front of an apartment building in the dark of night. There were about 20 bells that I could possibly ring to various apartments in the building, but I had thankfully written down Marias apartment number. I rang, heard a voice on the intercom say, Molly, and was buzzed in. I walked inside to the end of the hallway and was greeted by a tiny, middle aged woman with her dark brown hair pulled back with a clip. She greeted me with one kiss on each cheek and brought me inside, where she showed me the apartment. After presenting me with a fan and a magazine in Spanish as gifts, she took me over to the couch to have a quick chat. And then, just before she urged me to go to bed and rest, she said, now we take our first picture together. Selfie. It was so cute that I quietly obeyed, despite wanting to chuckle just a little bit.

The next morning I needed to be up by 8 so that I could get ready for my first day of language courses. The course didnt start until half past ten, but I had wanted to be up early enough to have breakfast, find the bus stop, and then the language school. I didnt feel like rushing. Maria agreed and we had breakfast together at 8. She offered to take me to the bus stop and I agreed. She had suggested heading out at 930, to which I politely asked if we could please leave at quarter past. I wanted to have enough time to get lost. Haha. She agreed, but promptly forget, and seemed puzzled when I was sitting on her couch at 920, waiting quite impatiently. She seemed to pick up on this and we left shortly after. In the hallway, a man introduced to me as Jose (the hilarity that the two people I met first in Spain were named Maria and Jose was not lost on me) was sweeping the floor. We shook hands and then Maria proceeded to show me how to unlock the front door with one of the keys she had given me. When it didnt work, she sent Jose to look for a spare in the back room. You have time, dont you Molly, she asked me in a way that suggested there was no need to worry about being late. I nodded politely and said of course. I was no longer in the land of punctuality. I had to remind myself that I was no longer in Germany.

As Maria and I walked from her apartment to the bus stop, I took pictures of street signs and noted landmarks carefully. I wasnt going to get lost, I told myself. I noted the congress building to my left, the starbucks on the right hand corner, and the vogue signs just to the left of the Neptune fountain. And then we were there. Maria wished me well and I took the bus 5 stops to Colon. Trying to remember her directions carefully, I crossed the busy street just as she had told me to do. And then, well, from there she said I should just ask. She didnt know exactly how to get there. So I just kept walking, and hoping that Id find the street on my own. And then I saw my safe haven. It was a Starbucks. I knew that such overpriced coffee would only be bought by tourists, meaning that the employees must speak at least some English. I went in, asked about the street I was looking for, and was told it was literally about a foot in front of me. So I made it to the language school almost on my own, with a little help from my neighborhood Starbucks.

I arrived at the language school at about 10am, which was about 30 minutes before my class started. I received my books and was shown my room. And then I sat, and waited. Eventually other students came in and I heard people conversing in French and English. But no teacher. 1030 came and went, and still our teacher was not there. Eventually, at about 1040, our teacher walked in and the lessons began. Punctuality is clearly not a Hispanic trait . Now I understand why a friend of mine always claims shes on Hispanic time.

After class I was able to find my way back, and just tried to relax, exhausted from the day and clearly culture shocked. More soon.

Molly

Sunday, May 3, 2015

12/30

30 Countries before age 30

1) United States of America
2) Canada
3) Germany
4) Switzerland
5) France
6) Netherlands
7) Belgium
8) Austria
9) United Kingdom
10) United Arab Emirates
11) Czech Republic
12) Italy

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2015:
13) Spain
14) Portugal
15) Slovenia

2016:
16) Mexico
17) Iceland
18) Sweden
19 Norway
20) Denmark
21) Australia
22) New Zealand

2017:

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

What is an Au Pair?

I think many people do not understand what an au pair actually is, so I will try to explain is as best I can. Remember that the program varies in different countries, and I am specifically talking about Germany. In Germany, an au pair is a young man or woman between the ages of 18-24 (I turn 25 during my au pair year, but was 24 at the time I applied for my visa) that lives with a family for 1 year as a member of the family. The au pair helps take care of the children, does light housework (cooking, vacuuming, ironing, loading and emptying the dishwasher), for up to 30 hours per week. In exchange, the au pair receives room and board, as well as insurance, a tram pass, and enough free time to visit a language course. Of course the au pair receives a bit of money as well. This is not referred to as a salary, but "pocket money," as the au pair is not an employee, but a member of the family. Now you know :)

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Changes

Changes I'm making, starting this week....

1) No charging ANYTHING on credit cards. There are always going to be "emergencies." If I cannot pay using a debit card or cash, I will save up for the item or *gasp* not buy it.

2) I will not buy any clothing or shoes that are of cheap quality, but rather will save up until I can afford their more expensive (and hopefully longer-lasting) counterparts.

3) I will save a percentage of my salary every month.

4) I will not spend more than the amount I have alotted myself unless I earn more money by freelancing.

5) I will NOT eat out more than 2x per week, unless I am on vacation and this is unavoidable.

Thursday, September 13, 2012

Gloria Steinem forgive me for saying this, but I think that all young women should become au pairs, and not just because it allows a young woman to see another part of the world, but because it teaches the young woman about being a mother. Chances are, if one is working as an au pair, it is generally in a 2-income household. These women are working either a part or a full-time job and are looking for a bit of extra help at home. Such is the case with the family I am living with (and working for in Freiburg). The mother is a professor at a teacher's college. In addition to working she is expected to be an engaged mother when at home. I've always thought that was a difficult task, but now I'm experiencing how difficult it truly is.

As a child I always thought, "Darn it! I have to go to school, and mom gets to stay home and watch Oprah all day! Where is the justice in this world?" Now I know that my mom likely had little time to watch Oprah. In between the cleaning, the ironing, the organization of driving this child here and that child there, I doubt my mother was watching much television or "sitting around."

Of course, since moving out of the house nearly 4 years ago I discovered that there was a lot more to running a household than I thought, but it's a completely different ball game when one is a mother, or in this case, an au pair. There are lots of dirty dishes, messy rooms, etc. As a child one thinks very little about throwing things on the floor. They don't realize that all of the little messes add up. Children are seemingly unaware of the fact that adults tend to like to keep their houses clean. For one, it gives the owner a sense of ease and comfort, and another, who knows when an unexpected guest could stop by! It's embarrassing if the house looks like a pigsty.

My job is very tiring, but I enjoy it very much. I'm living in a new country with a family I met through an au pair website, taking care of their kids and becoming a member of the family. Not to mention the fact that I'm improving my cooking skills (which were nearly non-existent before my arrival) immensely.

There is so much more to running a household than I ever knew....

Bye for now, Molly