Friendship

The other day, I was speaking to a German woman cultural differences. I mentioned that, in America, most people keep personal things to themselves, and don't always share them we friends. I explained to her that we most often try to deal with our difficulties ourselves, or perhaps share them with a family member. I told her that when I have issues, I may go to my best friend(s), but I try my best not to bother them. I try to act happy and don't want to be a "downer."

"No wonder Americans all end up in therapy!" she exclaimed.

She has a bit of a point. I tend to think "friendship" is differently defined here. In America, while I have a few "close" friends, most of my friends are people that I hang out with-and do not share my innermost thoughts with.

In Germany, with good friends, nearly nothing is taboo. From the cost of cars, to spousal issues, to depression: they dare to go there.

It's good to have people to count on. While it would be out of place to share really personal things with an acquaintance, I don't see anything wrong with telling your close friends, or family members, the truth.

There seems to be this modern idea in America: everyone for themselves. But, if we help each other out, life could be a lot more pleasant.

**Here is an article on the topic that I found interesting: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/looking-in-the-cultural-mirror/201009/are-american-friendships-superficial)